Important Points. ♥ When we make an assumption about the meanings of what another person is saying or doing, we are headed for trouble! We take a big chance in causing a problem in our relationship with that person because we don’t take the time to ask for more information, to find out what the person really means. ♥ It is especially easy to assume that the people whom we’re closest to SHOULD be able to read our minds, to KNOW how we feel, to ANTICIPATE our needs before we even state them. We ASSUME that “IF YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT ME,” then that person will KNOW what to do to make us happy. And when the person FAILS to do so, we become upset and TAKE IT PERSONALLY. ♥ We are often critical of ourselves and ASSUME that other people will judge us just as harshly as we judge ourselves. That’s why sometimes we have a fear of being ourselves around others. ♥ ASK, ASK, ASK, ASK! Ask for clarification. Ask for additional information. When we ask for more information, we are in effect saying, “I want to honor the ▇▇▇▇▇▇ in you and me. I want to understand what you mean. Will you help me to understand? Tell me more…” ♥ Gossip is poison, because it is based on assumptions. Gossip totally dishonors the ▇▇▇▇▇▇ in others. Gossip is spreading around assumptions. ♥ Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others a clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. ♥ The human mind creates a lot of chaos, which causes us to misinterpret everything and misunderstand everything. We only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear. We don’t perceive things the way they are. We literally dream things up in our imaginations. Because we don’t understand something, we make an assumption about the meaning, and when the Truth comes out, we find out it was not what we thought it was at all. ♥ We make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflict. You overestimate or underestimate yourself because you haven’t taken the time to ask yourself questions and to answer them. ♥ Just imagine the day that you stop making assumptions with your friends and eventually with everyone else in your life. Your way of communicating will change completely, and your relationships will no longer suffer from conflicts created by mistaken assumptions. ReektB ßessgns Yke Ykćvd $ęveemenh “Qgn’h 8qke $ssumphćgns” 3vd $ęveemenh – Reek t “Cgmmunćcqhe CteqvtB Rćhk Ohkevs” Materials: Strips of paper, markers & staplers. Invite the children to write their prayer requests on the strips of paper. Make sure they are worded in a positive tone and reflect their desire not their problem. It is important to realize that the actual words that we use are important. ♥ Welcome ♥ Share the Daily Word ♥ Announcements ♥ Collect the Love Offering Gqhkevćnę Cćvcte ♥ Prayer Circle Affirmation: “I communicate clearly so my ideas are understood.” ShgvB… Once there was a king who had almost everything. But he still wasn’t happy, for he didn’t have a queen. The wise men suggested that he issue this command: Let a search be made in every corner of the land! Now ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was an orphan who lives with ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇. The king’s men saw her as they were riding by. They took her to the palace and brought her to the king. The king was very pleased with her and chose her as his queen. ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ would often sit beside the palace gate. He saw a man named ▇▇▇▇▇ who was riding proud and straight. When ▇▇▇▇▇ looked at Mordecai, his heart was filled with hate, for ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ would never bow as ▇▇▇▇▇ passed the gate. ▇▇▇▇▇ was so angry that he went and got permission to kill God’s special people, the Jewish population. The rule went out across the land to people everywhere. When ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ ▇▇▇▇▇ of it , it filled him with despair. He told ▇▇▇▇▇ ▇▇▇▇▇▇, “You must go and kneel before the king. Perhaps you can persuade him to stop this awful thing!” So ▇▇▇▇▇▇ fixed a banquet as soon as she was able. She asked the king and ▇▇▇▇▇ to join her at the table. The king was very happy with the dinner she had made. “Please tell me what you want,” he said. “You needn’t be afraid!” ▇▇▇▇▇▇ cried, “Please spare my life and save my people too! This wicked man has made a plan to murder every Jew!” The king jumped up and hollered, “▇▇▇▇▇, is this true? Then you will die and ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ will rule instead of you.” The people made a holiday to celebrate the way that ▇▇▇▇▇▇ saved her people’s lives on that important day! In this story ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was a Jewish queen for the Persian people. The king did not know that ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was Jewish when he was tricked by ▇▇▇▇▇ into allowing all of the Jewish people to be killed. ▇▇▇▇▇▇ knew that she must take action. By all appearances – anyone who went before the king and displeased him was killed. ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was worried about displeasing him because she wanted him to spare her people. She gathered her courage and her faith and did not make negative assumptions and in a unique way asked the king to spare her people. But not assuming that she would fail, ▇▇▇▇▇▇ made a big difference in history. Qćscussćgn Cueshćgns… Make sure everyone understands the actual events that happened in the story. ♥ How was ▇▇▇▇▇▇ made queen? ♥ What is happening in the story? Structure these questions to see if the students understand the deeper message of the story. ♥ Why did ▇▇▇▇▇ want to kill all of the Jewish people? ♥ Why do you think the king ▇▇▇▇▇▇ his plan? ♥ Why were ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ and ▇▇▇▇▇▇ so upset over these plans? ♥ Why was ▇▇▇▇▇▇ afraid to speak up at first? What was she assuming? ♥ Why did she change her mind and ask to see the king? ♥ What happened when she asked him to spare the Jewish people? These questions should focus on how the principle being discussed can be used in their lives. ♥ How does this story relate to the Agreement: “Speak openly and honestly about what you want and need. Ask for what you want, don’t make people guess. ♥ What could have happened if ▇▇▇▇▇▇ had kept silent? ♥ Has there every been a time when you needed to speak up about something you needed? What did you do? What happened? Cveqhćve Eopvessćgn…
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Important Points. ♥ When we make an assumption about the meanings of what another person is saying or doing, we are headed for trouble! We take a big chance in causing a problem in our relationship with that person because we don’t take the time to ask for more information, to find out what the person really means. ♥ It is especially easy to assume that the people whom we’re closest to SHOULD be able to read our minds, to KNOW how we feel, to ANTICIPATE our needs before we even state them. We ASSUME that “IF YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT ME,” then that person will KNOW what to do to make us happy. And when the person FAILS to do so, we become upset and TAKE IT PERSONALLY. ♥ We are often critical of ourselves and ASSUME that other people will judge us just as harshly as we judge ourselves. That’s why sometimes we have a fear of being ourselves around others. ♥ ASK, ASK, ASK, ASK! Ask for clarification. Ask for additional information. When we ask for more information, we are in effect saying, “I want to honor the ▇▇▇▇▇▇ in you and me. I want to understand what you mean. Will you help me to understand? Tell me more…” ♥ Gossip is poison, because it is based on assumptions. Gossip totally dishonors the ▇▇▇▇▇▇ in others. Gossip is spreading around assumptions. ♥ Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others a clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. ♥ The human mind creates a lot of chaos, which causes us to misinterpret everything and misunderstand everything. We only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear. We don’t perceive things the way they are. We literally dream things up in our imaginations. Because we don’t understand something, we make an assumption about the meaning, and when the Truth comes out, we find out it was not what we thought it was at all. ♥ We make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflict. You overestimate or underestimate yourself because you haven’t taken the time to ask yourself questions and to answer them. ♥ Just imagine the day that you stop making assumptions with your friends and eventually with everyone else in your life. Your way of communicating will change completely, and your relationships will no longer suffer from conflicts created by mistaken assumptions. ReektB ßessgns Yke Ykćvd Fguvhk $ęveemenh “Qgn’h 8qke $ssumphćgnslwqys Qg Yguv Besh” 3vd $ęveemenh – Reek t “Cgmmunćcqhe CteqvtB Rćhk Ohkevs” Materials: Strips of paper, markers & staplers. Invite the children to write their prayer requests on the strips of paper. Make sure they are worded in a positive tone and reflect their desire not their problem. It is important to realize that the actual words that we use are important. ♥ Welcome ♥ Share the Daily Word ♥ Announcements ♥ Collect the Love Offering Gqhkevćnę Cćvcte ♥ Prayer Circle Affirmation: “I communicate clearly so my ideas are understood.” ShgvB… Once there was a king who had almost everything. But he still wasn’t happy, for he didn’t have a queen. The wise men suggested that he issue this command: Let a search be made in every corner of the land! Now ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was an orphan who lives with ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇. The king’s men saw her as they were riding by. They took her to the palace and brought her to the king. The king was very pleased with her and chose her as his queen. ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ would often sit beside the palace gate. He saw a man named ▇▇▇▇▇ who was riding proud and straight. When ▇▇▇▇▇ looked at Mordecai, his heart was filled with hate, for ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ would never bow as ▇▇▇▇▇ passed the gate. ▇▇▇▇▇ was so angry that he went and got permission to kill God’s special people, the Jewish population. The rule went out across the land to people everywhere. When ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ ▇▇▇▇▇ of it , it filled him with despair. He told ▇▇▇▇▇ ▇▇▇▇▇▇, “You must go and kneel before the king. Perhaps you can persuade him to stop this awful thing!” So ▇▇▇▇▇▇ fixed a banquet as soon as she was able. She asked the king and ▇▇▇▇▇ to join her at the table. The king was very happy with the dinner she had made. “Please tell me what you want,” he said. “You needn’t be afraid!” ▇▇▇▇▇▇ cried, “Please spare my life and save my people too! This wicked man has made a plan to murder every Jew!” The king jumped up and hollered, “▇▇▇▇▇, is this true? Then you will die and ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ will rule instead of you.” The people made a holiday to celebrate the way that ▇▇▇▇▇▇ saved her people’s lives on that important day! In this story ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was a Jewish queen for the Persian people. The king did not know that ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was Jewish when he was tricked by ▇▇▇▇▇ into allowing all of the Jewish people to be killed. ▇▇▇▇▇▇ knew that she must take action. By all appearances – anyone who went before the king and displeased him was killed. ▇▇▇▇▇▇ was worried about displeasing him because she wanted him to spare her people. She gathered her courage and her faith and did not make negative assumptions and in a unique way asked the king to spare her people. But not assuming that she would fail, ▇▇▇▇▇▇ made a big difference in history. Qćscussćgn Cueshćgns… Make sure everyone understands the actual events that happened in the story. ♥ How was ▇▇▇▇▇▇ made queen? ♥ What is happening in the story? Structure these questions to see if the students understand the deeper message of the story. ♥ Why did ▇▇▇▇▇ want to kill all of the Jewish people? ♥ Why do you think the king ▇▇▇▇▇▇ his plan? ♥ Why were ▇▇▇▇▇▇▇▇ and ▇▇▇▇▇▇ so upset over these plans? ♥ Why was ▇▇▇▇▇▇ afraid to speak up at first? What was she assuming? ♥ Why did she change her mind and ask to see the king? ♥ What happened when she asked him to spare the Jewish people? These questions should focus on how the principle being discussed can be used in their lives. ♥ How does this story relate to the Agreement: “Speak openly and honestly about what you want and need. Ask for what you want, don’t make people guess. ♥ What could have happened if ▇▇▇▇▇▇ had kept silent? ♥ Has there every been a time when you needed to speak up about something you needed? What did you do? What happened? Cveqhćve EopvessćgnBqckęvgund Jntgvmqhćgn…
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